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How Champions Think
In Sport and In Life
By Dr. Bob Rotella
13
The Self-Esteem
Workbook For Women
By Megan Maccutcheon
Self Esteem For Women
By G. S. Hansen
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3-14
Do you ever
feel stress and anxiety from the idea of going on dates
...as a
trans-girl?
Backward8
Protocol for
Clearing Out
Any Stress & Anxiety You Feel
Regarding Dating As A Trans-Girl
This powerful Backward8
procedure will neutralize emotional connections you feel
to each stressful or upsetting issue that is causing your dating
concerns!
DO THIS FIRST:
Make a
list of every anxiety you feel about dating – as a trans-girl.
Don't be afraid to
add something to the list if it feels right to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
–
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response – if possible (and if it
is applicable). |
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What makes me feel concerned about dating - as a
trans-girl?
I feel
so nervous about making a fool of myself,
I feel so anxious about going on dates because _______,
I worry about being laughed at because _______,
I worry that I will get attacked because _______,
I get so worried because I am not as ______ as other
girls,
I get so frustrated when people don't take me seriously as a
real girl,
I feel so darn frustrated when I can't find _______ that
fits me right,
I feel so nervous because I have such tiny _______,
I get so frustrated with trying to hide my boyish
_______,
I feel so anxious over being so big and tall,
I feel so anxious over being _______,
I worry that I'll make stupid mistakes when I go on a date,
I get so upset when somebody calls me _______,
I feel so upset whenever somebody laughs at me,
I get so upset when somebody ridicules me,
I worry that my wig might fall off in front of others,
I feel so anxious about having to _______ when I go on dates,
I get so frustrated at myself when I mess up my ________,
I get so mad when ______ try to grab my ________,
I get so worried that my date will call me "a
freak",
I just want to quit and walk away from it all,
I really want to kill myself because _______,
I get so mad that I want to hit someone whenever I _______,
I still feel some of this remaining anxiety from ________,
Please add more
of your own
dating concerns to this list.
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Note:
Whenever you clear out the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue, it can be extremely helpful
if you replace that negative issue with an empowering,
positive CHOICE statement (a
Backward8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this
next step gives you a positive-choice affirmation
immediately following the removal of a negative issue using
the special anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Backward8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a positive thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately
and automatically pop into your mind –
instead of a negative thought! |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to relax, and just feel calm and confident at all times!"
For
example:
If
your statement was...
"I
feel so anxious about going on dates as a trans-girl."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even
though
I feel so anxious about
going on dates as a trans-girl,
87654321
I
CHOOSE to relax, and just feel calm and confident at all times!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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