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Course Pages:
Table of Contents
Read THIS Page First
What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
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Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2 –
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3 –
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 – Parents' Program
Module 5 – Siblings' Program
Help Guide
Helpful Offers For You
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TGNOW Pages:
How Champions Think
In Sport and In Life
By Dr. Bob Rotella
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Do you ever feel
anxious about starting
high school or college as a trans-girl?
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Backward8
Protocol for
Clearing Out Your Stress &
Anxiety From
Starting High School
Or College
This powerful Backward8
procedure will neutralize
emotional connections you feel to
each concern you feel about starting high school or college!
DO THIS FIRST:
Make a list of every concern you have about starting high school or
college
(whether it involves your situation as a trans girl, or not).
Don't be
afraid to add something to the list if it feels stressful to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
–
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response – if possible (and if it
is applicable). |
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What makes me feel anxious or concerned about going
to high school or college
(whether as a
trans-girl, or not)?
I feel so anxious about
starting school,
I keep worrying I'll make a fool of myself at school,
I feel so worried about _______ at school,
I feel so nervous about _______ at school,
I worry about ______ at school this year,
I feel so scared of going to school because ______,
I get so upset when I can't go to school dressed _______,
I get so down on myself when the other kids don't take me
seriously as a girl,
I feel so anxious when I can't find the right classrooms,
I feel so frustrated at having such a huge _______,
I get so anxious over needing to hide my masculine _______,
I get so frustrated over not being _______,
I feel so anxious over being _______,
I feel so afraid of getting bullied at school,
I keep getting so mad _______ for being such a _______,
I get so upset when a teacher treats me like I'm a monster,
I get so upset when somebody _______ me,
I feel like like no matter how hard I try, I'll never be
able to _______,
I get so frustrated because my breasts aren't growing out
yet,
I just wish my breasts would grow much faster,
I get worried that my voice isn't feminine enough for
high school,
I often want to quit and walk away from it all,
I really want to hurt _______,
I still feel afraid to go to school,
I still feel some of this remaining anxiousness from
________,
Please add more
of your own
anxieties about starting school to this
list. |
Note:
Whenever you clear out the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue, it can be extremely helpful
if you replace that negative issue with an empowering,
positive CHOICE statement (a
Backward8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this
next step gives you a positive-choice affirmation
immediately following the removal of a negative issue using
the special anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Backward8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a positive thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately
and automatically pop into your mind –
instead of a negative thought! |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to relax, and just feel calm and confident at all times...just as
I am!"
For
example:
If your statement was...
"I
feel so anxious about starting high school
(or college) as a trans-girl."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even though
I feel so anxious
about starting high school (or
college) as
a trans-girl,
87654321
I CHOOSE to relax,
and just feel calm and confident at all times...just as I am!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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