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What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions # 1
Tap8 Points
Tap8 Procedure
Tap8 Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions # 2
Course Requirements
Tap8 Course Structure
Module 1
Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4
Program For Your Partner
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Embarrassed yet?
If you feel
embarrassed to be seen with, or are ashamed of your crossdressing
partner
in any way, those negative feelings can have an extremely detrimental
effect on your
overall relationship. Therefore, clearing out your feelings of
embarrassment, shame,
or hurt now, can make a profound difference in your lives together!
Here You Will Use This
Tap8
Power-Tapping Exercise for
Clearing Out Any
Embarrassment, Shame and Hurt You
Might Feel Over Your Partner's Crossdressing
Completing this exercise
can help you feel dramatically better about yourself and your life!
DO
THIS FIRST:
Make a list of every
negative emotion you feel about your partner's crossdressing
that causes you any
embarrassment, shame, or hurt...
Don't be
afraid to add something to the list if it feels shameful to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL tap through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response if possible (and if it
is applicable). |
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What shame, embarrassment, betrayal, or hurt do I feel over
my partner wanting to dress as a woman
(or that I have felt in
the past)?
I often
feel _______ at my husband for putting our family through
_______,
I feel so betrayed by my husband for doing this,
I feel so hurt by my husband's dressing as a woman,
I feel like I did something wrong to _______,
I often feel like I should have shown more love and
attention to my husband,
I feel like I caused his ________ to dress and act like a
woman,
I often feel embarrassed to be seen with my crossdressed
husband in public,
I often get a strong feeling of tightness whenever somebody
sees us together,
I feel so hurt when people give me grief about ________,
I don't feel confident in myself when it comes to supporting _______,
I feel _______ when I tell somebody that my husband likes
dressing as a woman,
I just don't know if I can shake this overwhelming ________,
I feel like I am not strong enough to get over this shame
from ________,
I really feel so ________ when my husband wears those loud
high heels in the mall,
I feel like such a complete fool for ________,
I don't feel like I deserve to have a good life,
I feel like I am not worthy of having good things like
________ in my life,
I feel so ________ because my kids are losing their father,
I feel ________ because everybody must think of my husband
as the village freak,
I still feel some of this remaining shame from ________,
I still feel some of this remaining embarrassment from
________,
I still feel some of this remaining betrayal from ________,
I still feel some of this remaining hurt from ________,
Please add more examples
of your own to this list.
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Note:
Whenever you tap out the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue, it can be extremely helpful
if you replace that negative issue with an empowering,
positive CHOICE statement (a
Tap8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this
next step gives you a positive-choice affirmation
immediately following the removal of a negative issue using
the special anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Tap8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a positive thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately
and automatically pop into your mind
instead of a negative thought! |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your
Tap8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to love and accept all of me!"
For
example:
If your statement was...
"I always feel embarrassed to be seen with my crossdressed husband."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even though
I always feel embarrassed to be seen with my crossdressed husband,
I CHOOSE to love
and accept all of me!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS THIRD:
Perform
Your Tap8
Power-Tapping Procedure
...just like you did in your practice exercises.
And remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more tapping
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
TAPPING!
Step 1
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now!
Step 2
Notice
how much stressful anxiety you feel when you imagine
yourself actually being exposed
to that issue.
Then, give that level of stressful anxiety a number rating
between 0 - 10...
(with 0 meaning that you feel no anxiety;
and 10 meaning that you feel extremely high anxiety).
Write this number next to the statement on your list.
Step 3
Concentrate
Deeply
on the
issue, and tap, tap, tap
continuously, until your emotional
distress has been reduced
down to nothing (or when your number rating drops to ZERO)!
You will need to CONCENTRATE DEEPLY on how each issue makes
you FEEL (that means,
getting your anxiety soaring to high
levels)...while tapping through all eight
Power-Tapping
points.
REMINDER...
If you are not feeling any stressful intensity, then there
is nothing available for you to
clear out, and then the
tapping
will not help you.
Therefore it is VERY important that you force
yourself to
FEEL as much anxious intensity as possible from each issue
that you have listed.
That way, the tapping will be the most
effective for reducing the distress you
feel from ALL
of your issues.
Just as you did during your practice exercises, repeat the
statement, while you tap through all
eight points
continuously...until your remaining stress-intensity has
been reduced down to nothing
when you think about that
issue. Once you have finished tapping on all eight
Tap8
Power-Tapping
points...remember to take a deep breath,
and BLOW IT OUT slowly
after you complete each tapping
round.
Step 4
After
you have tapped through a complete round, think about that
stressful issue again,
and really try to build your
stress-levels back up as much as possible. Now, if you can
still feel
strong negative feelings or stress from the
issue, then you should tap out those remaining
negative
thoughts and feelings IMMEDIATELY (do some more tapping
rounds on that issue).
Step 5
Now,
check to see how you feel about that issue. Notice if the
anxiety you now feel from that
issue has decreased
from how it felt before you started tapping. If you still
feel some remaining
anxiety from the issue, give it a number
on the 0 - 10 point scale. If it is above a 0 (zero),
then
you should do additional rounds of the tapping on all eight
tapping points.
Your goal is to reduce your anxiety all the
way down to zero (no anxiety remaining) by
repeating this
process.
In addition...if there are any examples listed that do NOT
cause you to feel any anxiety or stress,
then simply tap
through each one of those examples as though you DO feel
(just pretend) anxiety and
stress from them. Tap through
each one of those examples for at least one complete
tapping round.
Doing this will help to insure that you will
be
less likely to be affected by those issues at some point
in
the future!
Keep repeating this process until you no longer feel any
anxiety from each issue you've listed.
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Tap8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while
you are tapping.
While you're doing the tapping exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're tapping through any of the
exercises in this Tap8
Power-Tapping course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and
take some extra time to tap for all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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I've included these two helpful
illustrations for you...just in case you forget where
the eight
Tap8
Power-Tapping
points are
located...
 
Remember...
There simply
is
NO WAY
to do the
Tap8
Power-Tapping
wrong!
This methodology is so forgiving that you literally cannot get it
wrong.
As long as
you are tapping while you're concentrating on an issue,
it's working for you...
by whittling away more and more of your stress & anxiety each day!
So just keep
tapping everyday!
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