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Table of Contents
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What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
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Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2 –
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3 –
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 – Parents' Program
Module 5 – Siblings' Program
Help Guide
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Experience
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Reflection
=
Wisdom
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This
powerful exercise leverages the "Butterfly Effect" from
chaos theory, which suggests that small events can trigger
massive, unpredictable outcomes.
For
example: A butterfly in Africa lands on a lioness, causing
her to sneeze, which scares a herd of zebra into a stampede.
This leads to a dust storm, triggering weather imbalances,
which grow into a category 5 hurricane devastating Florida.
This
may sound extreme, but the same principle could be affecting
your life.
Small,
seemingly insignificant events in your past, like a missed
soccer kick, can ripple through your life, creating lasting
anxiety or self-doubt. For instance, a girl who missed a
game-winning shot years ago may relive that failure every
time she faces a similar pressure situation, even though it
happened long ago. Her subconscious doesn’t distinguish
between past memories and present experiences, so that old
anxiety resurfaces, hindering her performance.
Even
one negative event can shape your entire future if the
anxiety from it lingers.
But the good news? It's never too late to
break free from these effects. These exercises will help
clear out the stress, anger, and pain from past experiences,
enabling you to forgive and release their grip on your life.
Forgiveness isn’t about excusing others—it’s about freeing
yourself from their influence. |
"Being angry with someone is like taking poison...
and then waiting for the other person to die."
A nice benefit you will
typically gain after you have forgiven others, is that you will often
notice many
unexpected wide-scale positive changes taking place in your life. You'll
soon see just what I mean.
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Here you will use the
Backward8 Exercise for
Clearing Out Any Residual Anxiety Remaining
From
The Negative
Experiences
You've
Had Throughout Your Life!
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You may have heard of some
health related products on the market that help you to
'cleanse your colon' of the harmful toxins that build up in your colon,
and can even weaken your immune system.
Well, now you are going to learn a simple technique that can essentially
'cleanse
your subconscious mind'
of the negative emotional memories from any unpleasant experiences you
have had throughout
your life. This procedure shows you how you can reverse the harmful
emotional effects from any
negative events you've experienced from your early childhood to the
present day.
Soon, you will begin to notice a real improvement in how you feel about
yourself, and your life!
DO
THIS FIRST:
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Make a list of all the negative
events or issues in your life that caused stress, fear,
anger, pain, frustration, or anxiety.
Be specific and include anything
that feels stressful to you—there are no wrong answers!
Start each item with “I” and
feel free to use the examples provided or add your own.
These examples are meant to jog your memory, even if they
don’t directly apply to you.
If you see a blank, fill it in
with your own response, if applicable. |
If you're not able to come up with at least 100 negative things that
you've experienced
during your life, then you're NOT really trying very hard!!
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What negative events or issues have I experienced that
made me feel anxious, hurt, or sad?
I feel
like I let ________ down when I _______,
I feel so guilty about not ________,
I feel so frustrated that I was not good enough to ________,
I feel so ashamed of myself for being caught ________,
I feel so embarrassed about getting beaten up in front of
________,
I feel so embarrassed about ________ in front of all those
people,
I feel hurt after reading these awful comments about me on
________,
I feel ashamed after hearing those people saying ________
about me,
I feel so angry after hearing those bigots shouting _______
about me,
I feel so disappointed and hurt about ________,
I feel so worthless after screwing up this important
________,
I just feel like giving up after _______,
I feel so hurt from being called ________,
I feel so intimidated after being harassed by ________,
I feel so hurt over being rejected by ______,
I still feel some of this remaining stress from ________,
Please add more of your
own stressful or traumatic experiences to this list.
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Note:
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After
clearing the anxiety from a negative issue, replace it with
an empowering choice statement (a Backward8 Power-Phrase).
Making
a clear decision is powerful, which is why this step
introduces a positive affirmation right after clearing the
negative issue.
This process will help you form a habit
of automatically linking a positive thought to any negative
situation, so that when something negative happens, a
positive thought will instantly replace it. |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive anyone else
involved!"
For
example:
If your statement was...
"I
feel so hurt from being bullied by _______."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even though
I feel so hurt from
being bullied by ________,
87654321
I CHOOSE to forgive
myself for feeling this way, and I forgive anyone else involved!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from - above.
Just as I have done for you - below...
You are welcome to modify the
positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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Even
though I feel like I let ________ down when I _______,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
Even though I feel so
guilty about not ________, 87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
Even though I feel so
frustrated that I was not good enough to ________, 87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
Even though I feel so
ashamed of myself for being caught ________, 87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
Even though I feel so
embarrassed about getting beaten up in front of ________,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
Even though I feel so
embarrassed about ________ in front of all those people,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
Even though I feel hurt
after reading these awful comments about me on ________,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
Even though I feel ashamed after hearing those people saying ________ about me,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
Even though I feel so
angry after hearing those bigots shouting _______ about me,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
Even though I feel so
disappointed and hurt about ________, 87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
Even though I feel so
worthless after screwing up this important ________,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
Even though I just feel
like giving up after _______, 87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
Even though I feel so
hurt from being called ________, 87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
Even though I feel so
intimidated after being harassed by ________, 87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
Even though I feel so
hurt over being rejected by ________, 87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
Even though I still
feel some of this remaining stress from ________, 87654321,
I
CHOOSE to forgive myself for feeling this way, and I forgive
everyone else involved.
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
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It’s
normal for unexpected thoughts or emotions to surface during
these exercises—some may be buried from childhood.
If any negative thoughts or feelings come
up, even if unrelated to the current exercise, write them
down and clear them as soon as possible. These are the very
issues that can hold you back in life. |
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