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Course Pages:
Table of Contents
Read THIS Page First
What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
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Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2 –
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3 –
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 – Parents' Program
Module 5 – Siblings' Program
Help Guide
Helpful Offers For You
My
Mission For Backward8
Courses
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TGNOW Pages:
The Self-Love Workbook
For Teens
By Shainna Ali
Self Esteem -
The Teen Girl's Journey to
Self-Worth, Body Image,
Mr. Right, and Being Your Whole You
By Meagan Trayler
The Girl With
Self-Esteem Issues: A Memoir
By Rosie Mercado
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1-8
Don't Be
THIS
Guy...
Backward8
Protocol for
Clearing Out Your Feelings Of Jealousy,
Resentment,
or Any Grudges You May Have Against Someone
Here you will use
the
Backward8
procedure for
clearing out any feelings of
jealousy, resentment, or any grudges you may have toward someone else!
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DO THIS
FIRST:
Make a
list of everything that causes you to feel jealousy, resentment
or grudges against someone.
Don't be
afraid to add something to the list if it feels stressful to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
–
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response – if possible (and if it
is applicable). |
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What
thoughts are going through my head that make me feel
jealous,
or resentful of someone, or that I hold a
personal grudge against somebody?
I often
feel stressed out when ______ comes near me,
I feel like my ______ doesn't even appreciate what I do,
I worry about losing my temper whenever ______ comes around,
I often feel anxious about _______ being here,
I often feel like I can never look as good as _______,
I feel resentful against ______, because she's so
attractive/young/small/ _____,
I often feel anxious about my entire _______,
I feel so much rage whenever I see _______,
I really hate _______ for being so _______,
I worry about losing my cool when I'm around _______,
I feel so intimidated by _______,
I feel like the whole world is against me for _______,
I often feel like I just don't measure up to _______,
I often feel like I'm not good enough for ________,
I keep doubting my ability to ________,
I feel like I can't keep up with _______ no matter how hard
I try,
I just cannot seem to get over this grudge against _______,
I often feel so envious of _______ because she is so
_______,
I feel that _______ is so much _______ than I am at _______,
I don't feel very confident in myself and my abilities when
it comes to ______,
I don't know if I am good enough to _______ any more,
I just don't know if I can _______ when it need to,
I don't think I am _______ enough, compared to _______,
I feel like such a big loser whenever _______ is here,
I often feel like I am having a good _______ until ______
shows up and ruins it,
I don't feel like I deserve to be successful at _______,
I feel like I am not worthy of having good things like
______ in my life,
I still feel some of this remaining jealousy over _______,
because ______,
Please add more of your
own stressful examples of jealousy or personal grudges to
this list. |
Note:
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After
clearing the anxiety from a negative issue, replace it with
an empowering choice statement (a Backward8 Power-Phrase).
Making
a clear decision is powerful, which is why this step
introduces a positive affirmation right after clearing the
negative issue.
This process will help you form a habit
of automatically linking a positive thought to any negative
situation, so that when something negative happens, a
positive thought will instantly replace it. |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to love and accept myself completely – just as I am!"
For
example:
If your statement was...
"I feel so jealous
of _______ because she is _______."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even though
I feel so jealous
of _______ because she is _______,
87654321
I CHOOSE to love
and accept myself completely – just as I am!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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