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Table of Contents
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What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
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Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2 –
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3 –
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 – Parents' Program
Module 5 – Siblings' Program
Help Guide
Helpful Offers For You
My
Mission For Backward8
Courses
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TGNOW Pages:
The Girl With
Self-Esteem Issues: A Memoir
By Rosie Mercado
The Self-Esteem
Workbook For Women
By Megan Maccutcheon
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How does
it make you feel when you are rejected by someone?
How do you feel when others avoid being around you?
Backward8
Protocol for
Clearing Out Your
Stress You Feel
Whenever You Get Rejected
DO THIS FIRST:
Make a
list of everything you feel when you've been rejected.
Don't be afraid to add something to the list if it feels right to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
–
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response – if possible (and if it
is applicable). |
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What thoughts and feelings do I have whenever I am rejected?
I feel so
lonely when other kids reject me,
I keep feeling so sad when I get rejected for _______,
I feel just awful when I am rejected by _______,
I get so frustrated that my school won't let me dress as a
girl
whenever I want to,
I get so frustrated when people don't think of me as a real
girl,
I feel so alone when other kids avoid me,
I feel so miserable when _______ avoids me,
I get so angry when people treat me badly because I am a
transgender girl,
I feel so frustrated over being _______,
I get so upset when somebody treats me bad,
I feel so upset whenever somebody laughs at me,
I get so upset when somebody ridicules me,
I hate it when somebody just 'pretends' to be my friend, but
they really aren't,
I wish there was a way that I could hurt ______ like they're
hurting me,
I feel like seems like no matter how hard I work at it, I
just cannot ________,
I really hate it when I THINK I am hanging out with my
friends, but then they turn on me,
I often just want to quit and walk away from it all,
I really want to tell _______ to go ________,
I feel so mad, that I want to hit something whenever _______
rejects me,
I still feel some of this remaining misery from ________,
Please add more
of your own
rejection stress and anxiety issues to
this list. |
Note:
Whenever you clear out the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue, it can be extremely helpful
if you replace that negative issue with an empowering,
positive CHOICE statement (a
Backward8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this
next step gives you a positive-choice affirmation
immediately following the removal of a negative issue using
the special anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Backward8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a positive thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately
and automatically pop into your mind –
instead of a negative thought! |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements..
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to love and accept ALL of me - just as I am!"
For
example:
If
your statement was...
"I always
feel so bad about myself whenever I am rejected by others."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even
though
I always feel so bad about
myself whenever I am rejected by others,
87654321
I
CHOOSE to love and accept ALL of me - just as I am!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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