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Table of Contents
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What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
–
Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2 –
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3 –
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 – Parents' Program
Module 5 – Siblings' Program
Help Guide
Helpful Offers For You
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Mission For Backward8
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TGNOW Pages:
Self Esteem For Women
By G. S. Hansen
Self Esteem -
The Teen Girl's Journey to Self-Worth, Body Image,
Mr. Right, and Being Your Whole You
By Meagan Trayler
The Girl With
Self-Esteem Issues: A Memoir
By Rosie Mercado
The Self-Esteem
Workbook For Women
By Megan Maccutcheon
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Are You Taking Female Hormones?
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Did you know that your negative
beliefs are actually SLOWING DOWN your
overall feminizing effects from female hormones?
It's TRUE!!
Thought
x
Emotion
=
Reality
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Yes, it's true...the
popular expression, "We are what we eat" makes a great deal
of sense.
Think about it, if you MOSTLY eat fattening junk food, then
your body will tend to become fat and junk-like.
And then, of course, there's my favorite expression: "Your
self-image becomes what you think and say about yourself."
This simply means that if you routinely put yourself down
with negative self-talk, then what else could you expect to
believe about yourself?
Therefore, by the same token, it is also quite accurate to
say that "We attract to us what we think about most."
That's because....Energy
Flows To Where Your Attention Goes.
By this I mean, if you MOSTLY think negative thoughts, and
you have highly negative beliefs about yourself,
your life, and your surroundings, then you will likely
ATTRACT that same kind of negative energy into every
area of your being.
That is because...YOUR
THOUGHTS,
whether positive or negative,
INFLUENCE
YOUR REALITY.
Not only do you have a choice of what kinds of foods you put
into your body; but you also have a choice of what kinds of
thoughts you allow to exist in your mind.
Negative thinking people tend to attract other negative
people (and negative problems) into their lives.
Whereas, positive-minded people attract positive people (as
well as positive opportunities) toward them.
So, which would YOU rather have in your life, positive
opportunities or negative problems?
This powerful
Backward8
exercise works very much like the "Find
and Replace" function
on your computer.
Only, instead of finding and replacing a certain word or
phrase, you are identifying and then replacing a
destructive,
self-limiting, negative belief with a highly positive,
self-empowering, and life-changing belief!
This will show you how
empowering it is to make positive personal choices in every
area of your life. |
This is your Backward8
Protocol for
Identifying Your
Self-Limiting, Negative Personal Beliefs
and then...
Choosing to
Replace Them With New,
Empowering, Positive Beliefs
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This powerful technique is
designed to positively enhance your sense of self worth by
clearing out the
self-limiting negative beliefs you may hold about yourself,
and about your world...and then replacing those destructive,
negative beliefs with highly positive, self-empowering
beliefs that will serve to improve your entire life!
No matter how many awards you may have won, and how
successful you may have become, there will always be that
nasty little "Doubting Demon" residing in the back of your
mind, doing his absolute best to trip you up and make you
question your abilities... and repeatedly doubt yourself...no
matter what you do to prevent it!
This Doubting Demon has been created over the course of many
years of harboring negative beliefs that have consequently
taken a firm hold within your subconscious mind.
Using this Backward8
procedure will rapidly help you to eliminate those limiting
beliefs that have been holding you back. And then will
result in your developing a whole new calm sense of self
confidence – not only in your abilities, but in literally
EVERY area of your life!
Plus, in addition to eliminating any negative beliefs that
currently exist in your subconscious mind, you will now know
precisely how to instantly neutralize, and remove any new
negative beliefs that may pop into your mind---at any time throughout your life! |
DO THIS FIRST:
Make
a list of every negative emotional belief you have about yourself,
your life,
your environment, the world, etc.
Don't be afraid to add
something if it feels like a negative belief. Please try to
be as specific
as possible. And just remember....THERE
ARE NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Write each issue as a stated declaration phrase...and start
each statement with
"I
believe" (see
examples)
Instead of just listing your negative beliefs, make a
personal declaration of them.
For example:
Instead of just saying "I'm
overwhelmed", declare
your deep feelings of being overwhelmed this way...
"I
believe
school
is
so overwhelming to me!"
or
"I
believe
that everything in my life is so overwhelming to me!"
etc.
I've given you
several more good examples so that you will know exactly
what you
need to do.
You are welcome to use these
negative beliefs in your list, and add more of your own...
These examples are offered here to help REMIND you of many
different types of common negative beliefs.
Also, wherever you see a blank
space in a phrase, such as __________, please fill in the
blank with your own appropriate response - if possible. |
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More examples:
I
believe I am such a big failure,
I believe I am a born loser,
I believe I am too tall to pass as a female,
I believe I am not passable enough to ________,
I believe that I just do not measure up to other
girls,
I believe I am going to be an unconvincing female,
I believe my friends & family will reject me if I become a
female,
I believe I will never find anyone who loves me as the girl
I am,
I believe all of the negative comments I hear about myself
from others,
I believe I am very unattractive,
I believe I am fat and ugly,
I believe I am too short / too tall / too big / too small to
________,
I believe that everyone hates me,
I believe I am completely unlovable,
I believe that I don't deserve to have anything good and
positive in my life,
I believe everybody thinks I am weird,
I believe that everybody is making fun of me,
I believe I am stupid because I _________,
I believe the world is a cruel and scary place,
I believe we're in big trouble, because the news always
seems so bad,
I believe the world is so overwhelming and stressful,
I believe that since my family isn't rich, my options in
life are very limited,
I believe that everything in my life is overwhelming me,
Please add any more of your
own negative beliefs to this list.
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NOTE:
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Whenever you count
down the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue,
it can be extremely helpful if you replace that negative
issue with an empowering, positive CHOICE statement (a
Backward8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this next
step gives you a positive-choice affirmation immediately
following the removal of a negative issue using the special
anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Backward8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a POSITIVE thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately and automatically pop into
your mind -- instead of a negative thought! |
DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Add
the words "Even
though"
to the beginning
of each phrase on your
list,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then add the words "I
CHOOSE"
to the end of each phrase.
For example: if one of your negative beliefs is
"I
believe I will never be able to pass perfectly as my authentic self,"
You
would then place
Even
though
in front of the phrase,
and add -
I CHOOSE
- at the end of that phrase, so it would read:
"Even
though
I believe I will never
be
able to pass perfectly as my authentic self,
87654321
-
I
CHOOSE"
Do that for
every issue statement in your list from above.
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Now, I want you to think about all of the
POSITIVE emotional beliefs that
you would gladly CHOOSE
to have in your life –
INSTEAD OF each one
of those negative beliefs on your list.
After each negative
belief statement from your list, write your
chosen positive belief statement AFTER the words
I CHOOSE...
For example:
If one of your negative
belief statements is
"Even though I believe I am fat and ugly,
87654321,
I CHOOSE"
And your positive choice would be "to see myself as a slender
and attractive girl"
You would then add your chosen positive belief onto the end, so it would
read:
"Even
though I
believe I am fat and ugly,
87654321
I CHOOSE to see myself as a slender and attractive girl"
Another example:
If a negative belief
statement on your list is,
"Even though I believe I am not passable as a girl,
87654321
I CHOOSE."
And your positive choice would be "to see myself passing
better as a girl, everyday!"
You would then add your chosen positive belief to the end of that
statement,
so it would read:
"Even
though I believe I am not passable
as a girls,
87654321
I CHOOSE to
see myself passing better as a girl, everyday!"
I've given you several
good examples so you will know exactly what you need to do.
But you will need to create
your OWN list of Positive Personal Choice Preferences
You're welcome to use these negative beliefs & positive chosen beliefs
in your list,
and add more of your own...
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Even
though I believe I am such a big failure,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to see myself as a true winner in everything I do as
a girl!
Even though I believe I am a born loser,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to see myself as the winner I am truly meant to be as
a girl!
Even though I believe I am too big and tall to pass as a
girl, 87654321,
I
CHOOSE to see myself gradually improving my ability to pass
as a girl more everyday!
Even though I believe I am not passable enough to ________,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to completely love and accept myself just the way I
am!
Even though I believe that I just do not measure up to other
girls, 87654321,
I
CHOOSE to see myself improving more and more everyday, in
every way!
Even though I believe I
am going to be an unconvincing girl,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to see myself gradually improving my ability to pass
as a girl more everyday!
Even though I believe
my friends & family will reject me if I become a girl,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to believe my friends and family will be proud of me
for being true to myself!
Even though I believe I
will never find a girlfriend who loves me as the girl I have
become,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to believe 100% in myself as the confident girl I have
become, no matter what!
Even though I believe all of the negative comments that I
hear about myself from others,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to remember that I am a better girl than what anyone
says about me!
Even though I believe I
am very unattractive, 87654321,
I
CHOOSE to see myself as possessing many wonderful qualities
as a confident girl!
Even though I believe I am fat and ugly,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to see myself as being a strong and attractive girl!
Even though I believe I
am too short / too small / too big to ________,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to feel grateful for all of the wonderful manly
qualities that I have going for me!
Even though I believe
that everyone hates me, 87654321,
I
CHOOSE to like myself just as I am, no matter what others
may think of me!
Even though I believe I
am completely unlovable this way,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to completely love and accept myself as a confident
girl, anyway!
Even though I believe
that I don't deserve to have anything good and positive in
my life,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to remember I AM worthy of having good things in my
life!
Even though I believe
everybody thinks I am weird, 87654321,
I
CHOOSE to completely love and accept myself just as the
confident girl I am!
Even though I believe
that everybody is making fun of me,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to love and accept myself just as the confident girl I
am!
Even though I believe I am stupid
because I _________, 87654321,
I
CHOOSE to see myself as the bright and well adjusted girl I
have become!
Even though I believe
that the world is a cruel and scary place,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to give myself permission to feel safe and secure as
a girl, anyway!
Even though I believe
I'll never find a decent paying job,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to keep myself positive, no matter what the world
might throw at me!
Even though I believe
we're in big trouble, because the news always seems so bad,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to be helpful in any way I can be, to whomever needs
my assistance!
Even though I believe
the world is so overwhelming and stressful,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to feel calm and confident wherever I go,
and whatever I do!
Even though I believe
that because my relatives have diseases, I will also get
them,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to live my life to its fullest, and to help
others to do so as well!
Even though I believe
that since my family isn't rich, my options in life are few,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to feel grateful for what I do have, and to help
others in any way I can!
Even though I believe
that everything in my life is overwhelming me,
87654321,
I
CHOOSE to feel a new sense of purpose in my life!
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You
are welcome to modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are more
applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is
positive, personal, and in
the present tense
(as
though it is already happening now).
DO THIS FOURTH:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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