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What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 Parents' Program
Module 5 Siblings' Program
Help Guide
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2-8
Do you have A.N.T.s
in your head?
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Do you ever get
compliments or praises from people, and yet you don't truly
believe the POSITIVE comments they're saying about you?
Have you ever heard somebody give you a compliment, and
somebody else say a negative criticism about you, and you
automatically dismiss the compliment as fiction, but you
ACCEPT the negative criticism as fact?
Why is it that you automatically accept the negative
comments, but dismiss the positive comments, outright? Well,
when this happens, it is directly due to the negative
programming that has been building up within your mind
throughout your lifetime.
Here is a meBackwardhor for what stops many of us from believing
in ourselves, and keeps us from going for what we want most
in
our lives. This meBackwardhor states that our brains have a
serious ANT problem.
What is an ANT?
In this case, ANT is an acrostic, which stands for
Automatic Negative Thoughts
And we all have them. They're those "Yeah,
but" moments.
You
know, those little negative thoughts that pop into the back
of your mind immediately AFTER you receive a compliment...
"Yeah, but...no
matter how hard I work, _____ will never work out for me."
"Yeah, but...these things never seem to work for me."
"Yeah, but...I always manage to mess things up!"
"Yeah, but...if I screw this one up, I'll be _____!"
"Yeah, but...what if I am not able to _____?"
"Yeah, but...if only I was _____."
"Yeah, but...if only I had _____."
"Yeah, but...I just wish I _____."
"Yeah, but...I'm not nearly as pretty as _____."
"Yeah, but...I just wish my voice was as feminine as _____."
"Yeah, but...if that's true, then why do I always feel like
such a big loser?"
"Yeah, but...I'm not really as good at ______ as everyone
seems to think I am."
"Yeah, but...I'm not really good enough for ______."
"Yeah, but...my _____ still doesn't think I am _____."
Whenever you
think a negative thought following a compliment, you get
ANTs in your head! |
However, it is now
possible to effectively reverse the effects of negative programming
with repeated use of this special
Backward8
protocol.
Here
you will use this Backward8
Protocol for
Cleaning The Automatic Negative
Thoughts (ANTs)
Out
Of Your Head
Special
Note:
If you're thinking
that this exercise might make you become conceited or arrogant.
Don't
worry, it won't.
Instead, you will quickly begin to exude a strong image of self
confidence and self assurance.
Plus, you will likely want to help others to become just as confident
and self-assured as you are.
And
that's usually a GOOD thing, right?
DO THIS FIRST:
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Start
repeating to yourself some of the compliments that you've
received from others.
Now, try to concentrate very deeply on
what negative thoughts and feelings you're getting after you
hear yourself saying these positive compliments out loud.
Now, make a list of every negative thought or emotion that
pops into your mind whenever you hear any compliments, or
other positive comments, being made about you. |
Don't be afraid to add something to the list if it feels stressful to
you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE NO
WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each statement
in your list with the letter
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response if possible (and if it
is applicable). |
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What negative thoughts or emotions automatically pop into my mind
whenever I receive a compliment?
I often
feel like I don't measure up to other girls in my class,
I often feel like I'm not good enough,
I keep doubting my ability to ______,
I don't feel confident in myself and my abilities when it
comes to _____,
I don't know if I am good enough to ______,
I just don't know if I can _______,
I feel like I am not as ______ as other girls at
______,
I don't feel like I'm ______ enough to be ______,
I don't think I am attractive enough to ______,
I don't think I am a good enough communicator to ______,
I don't think I am smart enough to ______,
I feel like I am such a big loser,
I don't feel like I deserve to be successful,
I feel like I am not worthy of having good things in my
life,
I feel like my friends think I am ______,
I feel like everybody thinks of me as the ______,
I still feel some of this remaining stress from ______,
Please add more automatic
negative thoughts & emotions of your own to this list
(you can also add non-transgender related, personal ANTS if
you want). |
Note:
Whenever you clear out the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue, it can be extremely helpful
if you replace that negative issue with an empowering,
positive CHOICE statement (a
Backward8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this
next step gives you a positive-choice affirmation
immediately following the removal of a negative issue using
the special anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Backward8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a positive thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately
and automatically pop into your mind
instead of a negative thought! |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to accept
and believe in
myself, completely just as I am!"
For
example:
If your statement was...
"I am not really as
secure with myself as everybody thinks I am."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even though
I am not really as
secure with myself as everybody thinks I am,
87654321
I CHOOSE to accept
and believe in myself, completely just as I am!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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