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Table of Contents
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What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
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Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2 –
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3 –
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 – Parents' Program
Module 5 – Siblings' Program
Help Guide
Helpful Offers For You
My
Mission For Backward8
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TGNOW Pages:
How Champions Think
In Sport and In Life
By Dr. Bob Rotella
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The Self-Esteem
Workbook For Women
By Megan Maccutcheon
Self Esteem For Women
By G. S. Hansen
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Have you ever
felt stressed out over not being able to wear the right
clothes or outfit, either because you're not allowed, you can't afford
them,
or you just
don't have the right clothes that you want to wear?
Backward8
Protocol for
Clearing Out Your
Stress You Feel Over Not Being Able
To Wear The Right Clothes, Or The Right Outfit
This
powerful
Backward8 procedure will neutralize emotional connections you feel
to each frustrating and stressful issue due to not having the right
clothes!
DO THIS FIRST:
Make a list of everything you feel that causes stress or anxiety over
not
being able to dress the way you want to.
Don't be
afraid to add something to the list if it feels stressful to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
–
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response – if possible (and if it
is applicable). |
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What makes me feel upset or stressed out over not being able
to dress
the way I want to?
I feel so angry because
my school Principal won't let me wear _____,
I keep thinking that I will never get to dress like those
other girls in my class,
I feel so miserable having to dress like a boy,
I get so frustrated that I can't dress girly
whenever I want to,
I get so frustrated when people don't take me seriously as a
real girl,
I feel so irritated when I can't find just the right ______
that fits me,
I feel so frustrated that we cannot afford to get ______,
I get so embarrassed because I have to wear _______ to
school,
I feel so frustrated over being so huge,
I feel so cheated in life over being ______,
I keep worrying that I will never be able to wear ______,
I get so upset when somebody calls me ______,
I feel so upset whenever somebody laughs at what I am
wearing,
I get so upset when somebody ridicules my ______,
I keep thinking that no matter how hard I work, I still
cannot afford ______,
I get so frustrated because I can't wear pretty skirts and
tops,
I just wish I could wear ______ to the upcoming ______,
I wish my body would start to look more feminine so I could
look good in _____,
I always feel so mad when I am not allowed to dress as the
girl I
want to be,
I feel so frustrated when my ______ don't fit me right,
I always get so mad at myself when I forget my ______,
I get so irritated when other girls laugh at my ______,
I get so frustrated when I can't wear the right ______,
I really hate it when ______ only sees me as a boy –
pretending to be a girl,
I hate it when I THINK I am wearing a great outfit, but then
I discover I'm not,
I just want to commit suicide because ______,
I really wanted to tell my ______ that I prefer wearing
______,
I get so mad that I want to hit something whenever I
______,
I still feel some of this remaining stress from ______,
Please add more
of your own
stress and anxieties
to this list. |
Note:
Whenever you clear out the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue, it can be extremely helpful
if you replace that negative issue with an empowering,
positive CHOICE statement (a
Backward8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this
next step gives you a positive-choice affirmation
immediately following the removal of a negative issue using
the special anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Backward8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a positive thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately
and automatically pop into your mind –
instead of a negative thought! |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to remember that I am OK just the way I am!"
For example:
If your
statement was...
"I feel
so angry that my school won't let me dress feminine."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even
though
I feel so angry that my
school won't let me dress feminine,
87654321
I
CHOOSE to remember that I am OK just the way I am!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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