For several weeks or even months, you've been planning your first-ever shopping trip to the mall – all dolled-up as a girl.

During this time, you have been developing all of these wonderful fantasies about how easy it is going to be for you to just walk right in, and have all of the salespeople, the other shoppers, and everyone else be so impressed with your sense of style, that you're going to get so many compliments, because your feminine look and mannerisms will be so flawless that nobody would ever suspect that you weren't born physically female!

But then, on the day when you actually DO go shopping, reality sets in, and you
suddenly realize that you don't pass nearly as well as you had always dreamed that you would. And this discovery makes you feel so disgusted, that you immediately want to throw away all of your girl things, and swear that you're done with all of this, forever!!

Well, believe it or not, this rather disheartening scenario is far more common than might think among many transgender people!

So, this special exercise has been created specifically to help you move on comfortably from such events, so that you won't give up on being your true authentic feminine self!

I've given you several good examples so you will know exactly what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful examples in your list, and add more of your own. These examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different types of common stressful issues.
You SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.

Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as __________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate response – if possible (and if it is applicable).

What negative sensations do I get when reality brings me
back down to earth?

I feel so angry about _______,

I feel all this overwhelming depression from _______,

I feel so disappointed because ________,

I feel like I have wasted so much time and money on _______,

I feel all of this intense self-hatred, because ________,

I feel so mad at myself for ________,

I feel all this frustration about ________,

I feel so stressed out over __________,

I feel so anxious about _______,

I feel like I will never be able to pass as a real girl, because ______,

I feel all of this tension in my ______ (name the body area where you feel the tension),

I have this feeling of being disconnected from myself (an 'out-of-body' feeling),

I keep feeling like nothing makes sense, anymore,

I keep feeling like none of this is real,

I keep feeling like I don't belong here,

I feel like I cannot get out of this place fast enough,

I feel like everybody is staring at me, because _______,

I get so _______, and it scares me,

I feel so worried about not passing as a female,

I feel so confused about _______,

I feel like my whole life has been a big lie,

I feel like throwing everything away,

I feel like just giving up on everything,

I feel like killing myself,

I feel so disgusted about being seen as a female in public,

I feel so hesitant about going _______ dressed feminine,

I am so stressed out, because I have an important _______ going on today,

I am so worried that I'm going to be late for________,

I am so _______ being ________,

I feel like I just can't relax,

I feel like my mind is all foggy and unclear,

I still feel some of this remaining tension in my _______,

I still feel some of this remaining stress from _______,

Please add more of your own to this list.