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Table of Contents
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What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
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Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2 –
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3 –
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 – Parents' Program
Module 5 – Siblings' Program
Help Guide
Helpful Offers For You
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Mission For Backward8
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TGNOW Pages:
Building Self Esteem
in Children
By Patricia H. Berne
& Louis M. Savary
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4-12
Want to
know what the world's number one fear is?
It's actually
Glossophobia
(fear of public speaking)!
Backward8
Protocol for
Clearing Away Your
Fear of Public Speaking
& Being Interviewed
Here you will use the
Backward8
procedure for completely neutralizing the emotional effects
of your fear
of speaking in front of others!
NOTE
Are you wondering why
I would include a protocol for eliminating the fear of public speaking
in a course intended to help the parents of transgender persons?
It's because, the fear of speaking in front of others is a MAJOR fear
to many people.
And this fear can also lead to you gaining numerous other fears.
Therefore, if you can
wipe out your fear of public speaking, it will become far easier
for you to clear out most other fears and phobias, as well.
Plus, I am
hoping that, once you've lost your fear of public speaking,
you will WANT to get more involved with helping to improve the lives
of OTHER transgender person's parents,
and teach them what you have learned!
You are
welcome to have your entire family use this exercise, as it will help
them in literally
EVERY area of their lives...throughout their lives!
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DO THIS FIRST:
Make a list
of everything you feel afraid of when you're speaking in front of
others.
Don't be
afraid to add something to the list if it feels stressful to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
–
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response – if possible (and if it
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What
makes me
feel afraid, or anxious when I am speaking in front of others?
I feel
all this intense anxiousness about my upcoming interview,
I feel so self conscious with everyone watching me ______,
I am worried about saying the wrong thing in front of
______,
I am afraid of embarrassing myself,
I am afraid of embarrassing my family,
I am so nervous about being interviewed,
I always get rattled when I don't know what to say,
I often lose my train of thought when more than one question
is being asked,
I just don't think I could ever speak in front of others,
I don't think I could ever stand up and speak to the school
board about _____,
I don't think I could ever create any online videos for
helping others,
I worry about not being able to ______ at my best,
I don't know if I am good enough to ______,
I keep doubting my ability to ______,
I don't feel very confident in myself and my abilities when
it comes to _____,
I feel like I am not a very strong speaker,
I often feel like I don't measure up,
I just wish this interview was over,
I still feel some of this remaining stress from _______,
Please add more of your
own to this list.
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Note:
Whenever you clear out the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue, it can be extremely helpful
if you replace that negative issue with an empowering,
positive CHOICE statement (a
Backward8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this
next step gives you a positive-choice affirmation
immediately following the removal of a negative issue using
the special anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Backward8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a positive thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately
and automatically pop into your mind –
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to feel completely calm and confident whenever I am speaking!"
For
example:
If your statement was..."I
feel so nervous when I have to speak in front of people."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even though
I feel so nervous
when I have to speak in front of people,
87654321
I CHOOSE to feel
completely calm and confident whenever I am speaking!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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