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Table of Contents
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What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
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Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2 –
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3 –
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 – Parents' Program
Module 5 – Siblings' Program
Help Guide
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1-7
"Being angry with someone is like taking poison...
and then waiting for the
other
person to die."
This powerful
exercise will help you neutralize and break the emotional
connections you feel to each issue (and person) that is causing your
unwanted anger!
Backward8
Protocol for
Clearing Away Your
Anger –
That
May Be Preventing Your Attempts To Improve Your Life
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DO THIS
FIRST:
Make a list of
every anger-causing issue you feel,
or that you have felt in the past.
Don't be afraid to add something to the list if it feels right to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
–
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response – if possible (and if it
is applicable). |
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What
makes me feel angry (or
has consistently made me angry in the past)?
I get
so mad at myself when _______,
I often feel like hitting something, or someone,
I get so angry when I'm not passing as a girl,
I get so angry when _______ tell me I'm just a 'made-up
princess',
I wish I didn't get so mad at myself,
I get so angry when people don't take me seriously when I'm
dolled up,
I get so angry when people don't respect me when I dolled
up,
I feel so upset when nobody asks me to dance,
I get so angry when somebody calls me _______,
I get so mad at my _______ when _______,
I get mad when I break _______,
I get so upset when I see better looking transgender girls,
I just keeping getting frustrated when I mess up _______,
I feel all this frustration over _______,
I feel all this anger over ________,
I feel all of this anger toward _______,
I still feel some of this remaining anger from ________,
Please add more of your
own anger-causing issues to this list
(you should also add non-transgender related anger issues).
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Note:
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After
clearing the anxiety from a negative issue, replace it with
an empowering choice statement (a Backward8 Power-Phrase).
Making
a clear decision is powerful, which is why this step
introduces a positive affirmation right after clearing the
negative issue.
This process will help you form a habit
of automatically linking a positive thought to any negative
situation, so that when something negative happens, a
positive thought will instantly replace it. |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to relax, and release this feeling of anger!"
For
example:
If your statement was...
"I
always feel so angry when somebody calls me ______."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even though
I always feel so
angry when somebody calls me ______,
87654321
I CHOOSE to relax,
and release this feeling of anger!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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