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Course Pages:
Table of Contents
Read THIS Page First
What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
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Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2 –
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3 –
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 – Parents' Program
Module 5 – Siblings' Program
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Backward8
Protocol for
Clearing Out Your
Distress and Anxiety From
When Others Criticize or Bully You
Now you will use this Backward8 technique for neutralizing the stress you feel
when others criticize or insult you!
NOTE:
This
Backward8
exercise is intended to help you become "resistant" to the negative
comments
and insults from others. However, this exercise is NOT meant to make you
impervious to the
constructive criticism from those who CARE about you, and wish to help
you improve.
Backward8
isn't only about making you the best transgender person,
but also making you the best
PERSON you can be!
DO THIS FIRST:
Make a list of every negative
feeling you get when somebody criticizes or bullies you.
Don't be
afraid to add something to the list if it feels right to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
–
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response – if possible (and if it
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How do I feel when somebody criticizes or harasses me?
I feel
so hurt after hearing the others say ________ about me,
I feel hurt when somebody calls me "he",
I feel hurt when somebody calls me ________,
I feel afraid of the other
girls, because ________,
I feel so intimidated by those attractive
girls because _______,
I feel intimidated by _______,
I feel afraid of confronting ________,
I feel afraid of being bullied when I go to _______,
I feel like those other
girls are all _______,
I just got pushed by ________ today,
I feel so angry after one of the those ________ calls me
________,
I get so mad when somebody cuts down my _________,
I really want to punch ________ for saying ________,
I always get ticked off by those ________,
I always feel so down whenever I see a trans-girl who looks
better than I do,
I still feel some of this remaining stress from being called
________,
Please add more of your
own feelings of criticism to this list.
Don't worry if you forget
to add any issues to your lists, you can always add more to
them later.
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Note:
Whenever you clear out the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue, it can be extremely helpful
if you replace that negative issue with an empowering,
positive CHOICE statement
(a
Backward8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this
next step gives you a positive-choice affirmation
immediately following the removal of a negative issue using
the special anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Backward8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a positive thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately
and automatically pop into your mind –
instead of a negative thought! |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to love and accept myself, completely – just as I am!"
For
example:
If your statement was...
"I feel so
miserable whenever somebody criticizes how I look."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even though
I feel so miserable
whenever somebody criticizes how I look,
87654321
I CHOOSE to love
and accept myself, completely – just as I am!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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