Well, if you're anything like most people, you're hurting for a few days, or weeks. That is normal. It's simple grieving. And it is 100% healthy to feel this way.

And yes, losing somebody because they refuse to accept you for who you truly are, inside, can also make you FEEL as though you've lost a loved one! Therefore, the grief you feel from this unfortunate situation tends to be just as real as the grief you might feel if they had actually passed away. Grieving is 100% healthy and normal!

However, if you are STILL feeling down after an extended period of time, then it is no longer healthy, and you may even be in need of some assistance from a therapist.

This special Backward8 exercise is designed to help you BEFORE you see a therapist. Using this in advance of going to any professional treatment appointments can greatly accelerate your healing process!

I've given you several good examples so you will know exactly what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful examples in your list, and add more of your own. These examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different types of common stressful issues.
You SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.

Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as __________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate response – if possible (and if it is applicable).

What negative emotions do I feel after losing somebody close to me because
they refuse to accept me as ME?

I really thought we were happy as we were,

I am so upset about losing my _______,

I feel so hurt after my parents refused to accept me as a girl,

I can't believe I am losing _______,

I feel so let down when my _______ told me to NEVER go outside - dressed as a girl,

I feel so frightened after losing my ______ after I came out as a girl to them,

I feel so down after losing _______,

I feel so hurt from losing _______,

I had always felt so confident about my strong relationship with ______,

I feel so shocked about losing _______ like that,

I feel like I let _______ down,

I really feel like I blew it,

I am so sorry that I _______,

I really thought we had the ideal friendship, right up until _______,

I feel so embarrassed about this _______,

I feel like coming out was the worst mistake I've ever made,

I feel upset with myself for doing this to my family,

I feel so hurt over losing the trust of ______,

I feel so worried that I might not be as happy as I thought I would be after _____,

I still feel some of this remaining stress from ______,

Please add more of your own to this list.