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Table of Contents
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What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
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Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2 –
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3 –
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 – Parents' Program
Module 5 – Siblings' Program
Help Guide
Helpful Offers For You
My
Mission For Backward8
Courses
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TGNOW Pages:
The Girl With
Self-Esteem Issues: A Memoir
By Rosie Mercado
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Have you ever felt
nervous, shy, or apprehensive about meeting,
or reaching out to others, because you're a trans-girl?
Backward8
Exercise for
Easing Your Fear Of
Reaching Out To Others,
Or Approaching Strangers As A Trans-Girl
Using this Backward8 exercise will quickly have you feeling confident
enough to reach out and/or meet others, whenever, wherever you want to.
DO THIS FIRST:
Make a list of
everything that keeps you from meeting,
or reaching out to and/or approaching others.
Don't be afraid to add something to the list if it feels like a negative
issue to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
–
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response – if possible (and if it
is applicable). |
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What issues do I have that keep me from meeting or reaching
out to others?
I often
doubt myself when it comes to making new friends, because
_____,
I always feel so nervous ______ when I am about to _____,
I often feel like I'm not good enough at _____,
I keep doubting my ability to _____,
I always shy away from ______ in public,
I am just too shy to approach a complete stranger,
I don't feel confident enough to approach somebody I don't
know for _____,
I feel OK talking to somebody on the phone, but in person I
always get _____,
I always get so shy when I am _____,
I don't have the courage to talk to somebody as attractive
as _____,
I worry what somebody will think of me when I _____,
I have never been very good at _____ with _____,
I don't feel very confident in myself and my abilities when
it comes to _____,
I worry that the people will think I am _____,
I doubt that my _____ is ______,
I just don't know if I can ______,
I doubt that my girlish mannerisms are good enough to fool
anyone,
I don't feel like I'm good enough ______ to be a passable
girl yet,
I don't think I am feminine enough to ______,
I worry about making a fool of myself when I _____,
I don't think I am smart enough to ______,
I feel like such a big ______,
I don't feel like I should be ______,
I often doubt that my ______ will be good enough ______,
I don't think I am good enough at doing my makeup yet,
I feel like I am not worthy of having good things in my
life,
I feel like my friends think I stink at _____,
I feel like everybody thinks of me as _____,
I still feel some of this remaining stress from _____,
Please add more of
your own fear and concerns to this list. |
Note:
Whenever you clear out the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue, it can be extremely helpful
if you replace that negative issue with an empowering,
positive CHOICE statement (a
Backward8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this
next step gives you a positive-choice affirmation
immediately following the removal of a negative issue using
the special anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Backward8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a positive thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately
and automatically pop into your mind –
instead of a negative thought! |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to completely accept
and believe in
myself and my abilities!"
For example:
If your
statement was...
"I feel
like no matter what, I can't find the courage to talk to
others."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even
though
I feel like no matter what, I can't find the courage to talk to others,
87654321
I CHOOSE to
completely accept and believe in myself and my abilities!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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