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Course Pages:
Table of Contents
Read THIS Page First
What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 Parents' Program
Module 5 Siblings' Program
Help Guide
Helpful Offers For You
My
Mission For Backward8
Courses
Contact Us
TGNOW Pages:
How Champions Think
In Sport and In Life
By Dr. Bob Rotella
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The Self-Esteem
Workbook For Women
By Megan Maccutcheon
Self Esteem For Women
By G. S. Hansen
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3-12
Backward8
Protocol for
Clearing Out Your Fear
Of Being READ As Just A Trans-Girl
Here you will use the Backward8
procedure for clearing
out your fear of
being read, and/or being embarrassed as a trans-girl!
DO THIS FIRST:
Make a
list of fears you feel about being read as a trans-girl.
Don't be
afraid to add something to the list if it feels fearful to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response if possible (and if it
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What makes me feel afraid of being READ
while dolled up in
public?
I am so worried that I will be recognized while I'm
in public,
I feel scared, because I think everybody is laughing at me,
because _______,
I feel so terrified of being laughed at while out in public
as a female,
I am afraid to go out, because ________,
I feel afraid of interviewing for ________ - while dressed as
a female,
I am afraid of what others will think of me if I am not good
at passing,
I am afraid I will embarrass myself and/or my family if I
_______,
I am afraid that I will have panic attacks when I am
________,
I feel so terrified of falling on my face in these high
heels,
I worry that my bad makeup job will give me away,
I feel all this intense anxiousness with everybody staring
at me,
I feel so self conscious with everyone watching me
________,
I feel like everybody is expecting me to be perfect at
_______ as a girl,
I feel afraid of embarrassing myself when I _______,
I feel so worried about embarrassing _______,
I feel so worried that I will make a complete fool of
myself,
I feel so apprehensive about ________ in public as a
girl,
I feel like everybody will look me if I ________,
I am worried that I will be laughed at if I ________,
I don't feel very confident in myself and my abilities when
it comes to ______,
I often feel like I don't measure up at ________ as a
female,
I just wish this day was over, because ________,
I still feel some of this remaining stress from ________,
I feel all this intense anxiousness with everybody looking
at me _______,
I feel so self conscious with everyone watching me _______,
I worry about not being able to _______ as a
girl,
I don't know if I am good enough to ________ as a
girl,
I keep doubting my ability to _______ as a
girl,
Please add more of your
own to this list (you should also add any non-transgender
related, personal fears).
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Note:
Whenever you clear out the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue, it can be extremely helpful
if you replace that negative issue with an empowering,
positive CHOICE statement (a
Backward8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this
next step gives you a positive-choice affirmation
immediately following the removal of a negative issue using
the special anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Backward8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a positive thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately
and automatically pop into your mind
instead of a negative thought! |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to feel completely calm and confident wherever I go!"
For
example:
If your statement was...
"I feel so
afraid that I will get read as a trans-girl."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even though
I feel so afraid
that I will get read as a trans-girl,
87654321
I CHOOSE to feel
completely calm and confident wherever I go!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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