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Course Pages:
Table of Contents
Read THIS Page First
What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
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Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2 –
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3 –
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 – Parents' Program
Module 5 – Siblings' Program
Help Guide
Helpful Offers For You
My
Mission For Backward8
Courses
Contact Us
TGNOW Pages:
The Self-Esteem
Workbook For Women
By Megan Maccutcheon
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How often do YOU feel
like a snowman in the desert (out
of place)?
Backward8
Protocol for
Clearing Out Your
Stress, and Helping You Feel Completely
Comfortable Outside Of Your Comfort Zone
Here you will use the
Backward8
procedure for clearing out your stress,
and helping you feel 'right at home' outside of your normal comfort
zone!
DO THIS FIRST:
Make a
list of everything that causes you distress when you are forced to
STRETCH,
and do something you're not used to doing, or that doesn't feel
comfortable to you.
Don't be
afraid to add something to the list if it feels stressful to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
–
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response – if possible (and if it
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What thoughts are going through my head that cause me
anxiety when I am
forced to perform outside of my normal
comfort zone?
I don't
feel comfortable doing ______ this way,
I feel so uncomfortable walking in these high-heel shoes,
I just can't get used to having these heavy breasts on my chest,
I keep forgetting not to touch my made-up face,
I don't feel comfortable having to sit in this unnatural
way,
I feel so uncomfortable wearing ______,
I keep forgetting to keep my legs together when I sit,
I feel uncomfortable with this genital tucking device
(a gaff),
I keep forgetting to use my feminine voice when I speak,
I keep forgetting to bring my purse with me when I leave places,
I keep forgetting to shave my ______,
I feel so awkward when I _______,
I cannot understand why _______ is making me ______ this
way,
I feel so 'out of place' right now,
I feel apprehensive about going ______ dressed as a girl,
I feel like I just cannot get ______ this way,
I just don't feel right doing ______ this way,
I feel like ______ is so unnatural for me,
I feel so out of place using this method of ______,
I feel so overwhelmed when I am forced to ______,
I feel like the whole world is against me whenever I have to
______,
I often feel like I just don't measure up to ______ when I
do it this way,
I often feel like I'm not good enough,
I feel so ______ going to this transgender support group
meeting,
I keep doubting my ability to ______,
I don't feel very confident in myself when it comes to _____
this way,
I don't know if I am good enough to ______,
I just don't know if I can _______,
I feel like such a big loser, because I haven't been able to
master ______,
I worry about ______ doing it this way,
I often feel anxious about having to _______ this way,
I still feel some of this remaining stress over _______,
Please add more of your
own stressful examples to this list.
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Note:
Whenever you clear out the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue, it can be extremely helpful
if you replace that negative issue with an empowering,
positive CHOICE statement (a
Backward8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this
next step gives you a positive-choice affirmation
immediately following the removal of a negative issue using
the special anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Backward8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a positive thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately
and automatically pop into your mind –
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to believe in
myself and my
abilities – no matter what I am doing!"
For
example:
If your statement was...
"I just don't feel
very comfortable having to _______."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even though
I just don't feel
very comfortable having to _______,
87654321
I CHOOSE to believe
in myself and my abilities – no matter what I am doing!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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