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Course Pages:
Table of Contents
Read THIS Page First
What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
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Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2 –
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3 –
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 – Parents' Program
Module 5 – Siblings' Program
Help Guide
Helpful Offers For You
My
Mission For Backward8
Courses
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TGNOW Pages:
Building Self Esteem
in Children
By Patricia H. Berne
& Louis M. Savary
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4-7
"What
may seem ironic to you is the fact that, with the exceptions of the fear
of falling,
and the fear of loud noises, every child is born FEARLESS.
Every other fear is learned throughout our lives."
~ from Brian Tracy, World Famous
Success Speaker & Educator
Backward8
Protocol for
Breaking The Fears,
Hesitations & Apprehensions You Feel
As Your Loved One Goes Into Their New Life -
As YOUR DAUGHTER
DO THIS FIRST:
Make a list of
everything that makes you feel afraid or apprehensive of
your loved one dressing and/or living full-time as a girl.
Don't be
afraid to add something to the list if it feels fearful to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
–
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response – if possible (and if it
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What are my fears, hesitations & apprehensions over ______
dressing,
and/or living full-time as a girl?
I feel
all this fear of ______,
I always feel _____ when I am in large crowds with my
transitioning child,
I feel scared, because I think everybody is staring at us,
I feel so terrified of being laughed at, when my child is
dressed as ______,
I feel all this fear of her getting harassed,
I am afraid of her getting mugged,
I feel terrified of her getting assaulted,
I am afraid to go shopping with her, because _______,
I am afraid that she will get pulled over by the Police,
I feel afraid of having to make big decisions about _______,
I feel afraid of her interviewing for a _______ as a female,
I am so afraid of messing up during ________,
I feel so afraid of blowing my chance to ______,
I am so afraid that I will forget what I need to do during
_______,
I am afraid she will embarrass me and/or my family when
_______,
I am very much afraid of the ______ changes that are about
to take place,
I am afraid of what others will think of her if she cannot
pass well as a female,
I am afraid that I will have panic attacks when I am
_______,
I am so afraid that I will never be as good as I need to be
at _______,
I feel so apprehensive about _______,
I feel this strong apprehension whenever I _______,
I keep feeling this strong hesitation over doing _______,
I feel this intense fear of _______,
I feel so afraid of our other kids being harassed in school
because _______,
I am afraid that I'll get angry about ________,
I still feel some of this remaining fear from ________,
Please add more of your
own fears, hesitations and apprehensions to this list.
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Note:
Whenever you clear out the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue, it can be extremely helpful
if you replace that negative issue with an empowering,
positive CHOICE statement (a
Backward8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this
next step gives you a positive-choice affirmation
immediately following the removal of a negative issue using
the special anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Backward8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a positive thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately
and automatically pop into your mind –
instead of a negative thought! |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to relax and release my fears, completely!"
For
example:
If your statement was...
"I feel
afraid that she will get harassed in school."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even though
I feel afraid that
she will get harassed in school,
87654321
I CHOOSE to relax
and release my fears, completely!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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