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Table of Contents
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What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
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Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2 –
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3 –
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 – Parents' Program
Module 5 – Siblings' Program
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How
do you usually feel after suffering the loss of a loved one?
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Well, if you're anything like
most people, you're hurting for a few days, or weeks. That
is normal. It's simple grieving. And it is 100% healthy
to feel this way.
And, yes, losing your sibling to gender-transition
(becoming a female)
can also make you FEEL as though you've lost a loved one! Therefore, the grief you feel from your brother
transitioning tends to be just as real as the grief you
might feel if he had actually passed away.
However, if you are STILL feeling down after an extended
period of time, then it is no longer healthy, and you
may
even be in need of some assistance from a therapist.
This special Backward8
exercise is designed to help you BEFORE you see a therapist.
Using this in advance of
going to any professional treatment
appointments can greatly accelerate your healing process! |
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Here
you will use the Backward8
procedure for
Easing Your Emotional
Disappointment
of Losing Your Brother To Gender-Transitioning
(...the way you had always known him
to be!)
DO
THIS FIRST:
Make a list of every negative emotion you feel about suffering the loss
of
your brother to gender-transitioning.
Don't be
afraid to add something to the list if it feels stressful to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
–
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response – if possible (and if it
is applicable). |
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What negative emotions do I feel after losing my brother to
gender-transition
(becoming a female)?
I
really thought he was happy as the boy I thought he was,
I am so upset about losing my _______,
I feel like I have been cheated out of my ________,
I can't believe I am losing _______,
I feel so down after losing _______,
I feel so hurt from losing _______,
I had always felt so confident about my strong brother,
I feel so shocked about losing my brother to
gender-transition like that,
I feel like my sister let _______ down,
I really feel like I blew it with ______,
I am so sorry that I feel like ______,
I really thought we had the perfect sibling relationship,
right up until _____,
I feel so lost without _______,
I feel like this was the worst thing that has ever happened
to me,
I feel upset at _______ for doing this to our happy family,
I feel so ashamed over _______,
I still feel some of this remaining stress from ________,
Please add more of your
own stressful concerns to this list.
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Note:
Whenever you clear out the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue, it can be extremely helpful
if you replace that negative issue with an empowering,
positive CHOICE statement (a
Backward8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this
next step gives you a positive-choice affirmation
immediately following the removal of a negative issue using
the special anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Backward8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a positive thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately
and automatically pop into your mind –
instead of a negative thought! |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to love and accept HER, completely...just as SHE is!"
For example:
If your statement was...
"I feel depressed over losing my
brother, now that he's becoming a female."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even though
I feel depressed
over losing my brother, now that he's becoming a female,
87654321
I CHOOSE to love
and accept HER, completely...just as SHE is!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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