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Course Pages:
Table of Contents
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What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
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Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2 –
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3 –
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 – Parents' Program
Module 5 – Siblings' Program
Help Guide
Helpful Offers For You
My
Mission For Backward8
Courses
Contact Us
TGNOW Pages:
The Self Confidence Workbook
By Barbara Markway, PhD
& Celia Ampel
Self Esteem For Men
By Darcy Carter
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2-16
How does
it make you feel when you are rejected by someone?
How do you feel when others avoid being around you?
Backward8
Protocol for
Clearing Out Your
Stress You Feel
Whenever You Get Rejected
DO THIS FIRST:
Make a
list of everything you feel when you've been rejected.
Don't be afraid to add something to the list if it feels right to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
–
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response – if possible (and if it
is applicable). |
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What thoughts and feelings do I have whenever I am rejected?
I often feel
like I don't measure up as a male,
I feel hurt when my family refuses to acknowledge me as a
boy,
I always feel upset when ______ doesn't respect me as a real
boy,
I just keep getting rejected from ______,
I often feel like I'm not good enough at passing to get
______,
I keep getting rejected for ______ because I am not as
passable as I need to be,
I keep getting rejected for the way I _______,
I keep doubting my ability to _______ as a male,
I always feel hurt when cute girls pass me by for other boys,
I feel so hurt when girls turn me down,
I feel hurt when nobody wants to dance with me,
I feel hurt when nobody wants to ______ with me,
I feel hurt when ______ rejects my advances,
I always get frustrated when I don't get taken seriously by
______ as a real boy,
I felt so hurt when I was rejected from joining the boy
scouts when I was a kid,
I don't feel confident in myself and my abilities when it
comes to ______ as a male,
I don't know if I am good enough to _______,
I just don't know if I can get this job done right because of _______,
I feel like such a big loser, because I can't _______,
I don't feel like I deserve to be successful,
I feel like I am not worthy of having good things like
______ in my life,
I feel like my classmates think I am a freak,
I feel like everybody thinks of me as the world's biggest
dork,
Please add more
of your own
rejection stress and anxiety issues to
this list. |
Note:
Whenever you clear out the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue, it can be extremely helpful
if you replace that negative issue with an empowering,
positive CHOICE statement (a
Backward8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this
next step gives you a positive-choice affirmation
immediately following the removal of a negative issue using
the special anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Backward8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a positive thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately
and automatically pop into your mind –
instead of a negative thought! |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to love and accept ALL of me - just as I am!"
For
example:
If
your statement was...
"I feel so bad about myself whenever I am rejected by others."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even
though
I feel so bad about
myself whenever I am rejected by others,
87654321
I
CHOOSE to love and accept ALL of me - just as I am!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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