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Table of Contents
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What Causes Your Anxiety?
Your Best Anxiety Solution
Frequently
Asked Questions - 1
Procedure
For Use
Practice Exercises
Frequently
Asked Questions - 2
Module 1
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Removing Emotional Trash
Module 2 –
Helping You Feel Better TODAY
Module 3 –
Helping You Move FORWARD
Module 4 – Parents' Program
Module 5 – Siblings' Program
Help Guide
Helpful Offers For You
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How does it make
you feel when somebody expects you
to BE
something you're not?
Or, how do you feel when your friends expect you to DO something
that you don't feel comfortable doing?
Backward8
Protocol for
Clearing Out Any
Stress & Anxiety You Feel
From Peer Pressures
DO THIS FIRST:
Make a list of every emotion you feel when you are expected to do
something
you're not comfortable doing.
Don't be
afraid to add something to the list if it feels stressful to you.
Please try to be as specific as possible. And just remember....
THERE ARE
NO WRONG ANSWERS!!!
Start each
statement in your list with the letter
–
I
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I've
given you several good examples so you will know exactly
what you need to do. You are welcome to use these stressful
examples in your list, and add more of your own. These
examples are offered to help REMIND you of many different
types of common stressful issues.
You
SHOULD STILL work through all of these examples
even if they do not directly apply to your own situation.
Also, wherever you see a blank spot in a phrase, such as
__________, please fill in the blank your own appropriate
response – if possible (and if it
is applicable). |
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What makes me feel upset when I am expected to do something that I'm
just not comfortable with?
I feel so pressured to
_______,
I keep feeling all this tension when ________ wants me to
_______,
I get so worried that _______ is going to make me _______,
I get so frustrated when I am being forced to ________,
I get angry when people try to make me ________ even
though I don't want to,
I feel so _______ because I can't _______ when the others
want,
I feel so frustrated when I am expected to _______,
I get so upset when others expect me to be _______,
I feel so frustrated over not being able to ________,
I feel so frustrated over being afraid to _______ with my
friends,
I keep messing up at _______ as a
boy,
I get so upset when somebody calls me a ________ because I
won't _______,
I feel so upset whenever somebody mocks me as a
boy because
I don't ______,
I get so upset when somebody ridicules me just because I
refuse to _______,
I feel like no matter how hard I _______, I just cannot
________,
I get so frustrated because my friends are able to _______
but I'm not,
I wish my body would masculinize, so my friends would
accept me as ______,
I wish my friends would accept me as I am, instead of
_______,
I wish that _______ would just get off my back about
_______,
I wish I could just die, because ________,
I often want to quit and walk away from it all,
I really want to tell _______ to just go _______,
I feel so mad that I want to hit something whenever _______,
I still feel some of this remaining stress from ________,
Please add more
of your own upsetting frustrations to
this list. |
Note:
Whenever you clear out the anxious intensity from the negative
aspects of an issue, it can be extremely helpful
if you replace that negative issue with an empowering,
positive CHOICE statement (a
Backward8
Power-Phrase).
And, there is nothing more empowering than making a
definitive choice to do something. That is why this
next step gives you a positive-choice affirmation
immediately following the removal of a negative issue using
the special anxiety-clearing exercises in this
Backward8
course.
PLUS, this step will help to make it a permanent habit for
you to automatically LINK a positive thought to any negative
issue, so that whenever something negative happens to you, a
positive thought will immediately
and automatically pop into your mind –
instead of a negative thought! |
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DO THIS SECOND:
Create Your Backward8
Power-Phrases...
Write "Even
though" in front
of each of your statements,
and
add 87654321 after your statements.
Then, add the following
words to the end of your statement:
"I
CHOOSE to relax, and remember that I am OK - just the way I am!"
For example:
If your statement
was..."I feel so
much pressure to ________."
Your new statement would then become:
"Even
though
I feel so much pressure to
________,
87654321
I CHOOSE to
relax, and remember that I am OK - just the way I am!"
Do that for every
issue statement in your list from above.
You are welcome to
modify the positive choice
Power-Phrases so they are
more applicable
to your own specific needs.
Just make sure every statement is positive, personal, and in the
present tense
(as though it is already happening now).
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DO THIS
THIRD:
Perform Your Backward8
Procedure
Remember, this works the same way as anything else, the more
counting
repetitions you do,
the better your results
will be! So...KEEP
COUNTING!
Procedure
Select
a statement from your list above, and
mentally visualize
(imagine) yourself
feeling the stressful intensity that
you WOULD feel if you were actually experiencing
that
right now, then repeat each of your complete statements as
you have written
them out (including counting backward from 8)!
Keep repeating this process for each issue until you no longer feel any
intensity from the issue!
You will gain positive results for some issues much faster
than you will for other issues.
So, be patient, and your results will come for you.
Backward8
is a process, NOT an event!
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NOTE...
It is very common for
other thoughts or emotions to pop into your mind while you are counting.
While you're doing the exercises,
you will likely discover all kinds of new, unrealized
thoughts
and emotions that may have been
buried deep within your subconscious mind for
years...
possibly even since your early childhood.
If, at anytime, while you're working through any of the
exercises in this Backward8
course,
you notice any other negative thoughts or stressful emotions
popping up, even if they do not directly
apply to the
particular exercise you're working on at the moment, then
you should write
them down,
and take some extra time to clear all of those negative
issues, as soon as possible! It's THOSE
negative thoughts
and emotions that will get in your way as you go forward in
your life!
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